Let’s Get a Few Things Straight

This is the third and final time I will address this issue, or you.  EVER.  

Respond to it, don’t respond to it, I don’t care.  I won’t be paying attention.  

In the first place, it’s libel, not slander - and it’s only libel or slander if what I’ve said can’t be proven.  So, this blog, which you wrote, pretty much spells out that you fantasize about not only killing me, but if anyone follows along and reads through it, pretty much spells out your fantasies with the man in question.   It’s not exactly a leap to consider me the “Senator’s Wife” that you’re fantasizing about killing, because I once joked, very publicly, that I wanted to be one.   It’s also not a leap, given my love for politics, and my love for the Kennedys and for Jackie.   There’s far more here that points to me, points to your subconscious desires to murder me, as well. So, not only did you fantasize about killing me, you also pretty much planned it out.  That’s not exactly rational or mature.  (I’ve screen shotted this blog, by the way - that’s what I was doing at your site - just in case it “whoops” disappears.  I also check in - or have, in the past because of the threats against me.  Most people would call me stupid not to, but I no longer am.  After today, this will serve as what I need, should anything happen to me. ) 

I could also add the myriad of comments about needing to throw someone overboard on the second cruise.  That someone being me.  That’s also a threat to ending my life.  Call it a joke, but I don’t, and considering we’re talking about my life, I don’t find any humour in it.  I have NEVER, in my entire life, threatened harm to you, despite your attempts to turn the situation around and pretty much libel me and imply that I’d stab you in your sleep.    Disagreed with you, extremely vocally, but the worst I’ve done is called you crazy and obsessed - and, let’s face it - most judges would give me a restraining order against YOU based on the blog and that alone, before I ever told them that you actually physically pushed (and HARD) a friend of mine on the first cruise.   

So, hurt people hurt people, right?  Thing is - I’m not hurt by your actions.  But, yes, you are hurt and you are acting out.  More to the point, you feel entitled to act out.  What am I doing?  I’m attempting to tell you that your comments are no longer appropriate.  In fact, they’re causing a lot of hurt.  I told you that, and if you don’t believe me?  Believe his brother, who pretty much confirmed it for you, himself.  

The tragic thing?  You were once a part of a group of people that were given a lot of attention.  You were “in”, for all intents and purposes, and maybe (a strong maybe there) then, you had the ability to joke around with him.  He’s changed.  He’s matured.  He’s gone through a LOT since that time.  The tragic thing is that people that should know that and accept that about him, should be there for him, should understand, more than 98% of the other fans out there, actually treat him far worse than most of that 98%.   You call it “teasing” when it’s actually “ridicule”.  You think it acceptable to go to his neighbourhood and tweet every single place you go, and then, vilify him because he didn’t come find you.   The tragic thing is, yes, you are hurting, but in your hurt, you’re hurting him far more than anything else… and you don’t see that and even worse, you don’t care that you’re hurting him - which proves my point - all you care about is your pain, don’t care how your initial comments cause harm or pain, don’t care how you act, how you treat people, how you do EVERYTHING you can to hurt people that don’t do exactly what you want them to do.   

I am sorry that your life didn’t turn out the way you wanted to.  I wish it had, because, quite honestly?  If it had, I wouldn’t care what you do or how you do it.  My life didn’t turn out the way I wanted to, either, but here’s the thing - I don’t hold grudges against those people in life that caused my life to veer in a different direction.  You can’t direct people or feelings.  You can’t make or force someone to care about you who doesn’t feel the same way.  What you can do, is, if you want them in your life, treat them with the respect that they deserve.  The way you’re currently acting is the way Taylor Swift acts, the way most teenage girls act, the way most immature people act.  He didn’t fall head over heels in love with you, so he’s an asshole - he’s the one with the problem, instead of seeing life for what it is - that you can’t order people to care, you can’t direct them, that if they don’t care for you, the best thing they can do for you is to show you that, so that you can go off and be happy with someone that will.  I’m not hurt by you… But your actions are causing harm, and that is what I care about.