So… I kind of just blurted out my side of the story of the continuing battle between my sister and me to my Dad, and as I suspected, he already knew her side… and, yeah, she conveniently left out a lot of details… (Not shocked.)
The difference between my sister and me is this: I use my powers for good. She uses hers for herself. I may observe, but I don’t judge and I definitely try to be supportive / positive where I can - not destructive or hurtful.
I also found out that during the time my Mom was in the hospital, my sister took two full days off from work. Two days in which she didn’t offer to help with the dogs. Two days in which she most definitely did NOT go to the hospital. (Which makes the comments on the photos about the dogs even worse, in my opinion.)
My Dad said that my sister took my Mom’s fall very hard. I agree with that. On Tuesday, I was a wreck… but, I also move quickly from, “okay, that’s the bad… this is the good…” It’s survival. I adapt, because you have to when you work on campaigns. ”This has happened and it sucks and you can process it later, but these are the ramifications and this is what needs to be done, moving forward.” It’s very much in my make up.
He also asked me to potentially go up there to take care of my Mom on Saturday. My sister is supposed to but is hedging on it, and if she hears that I’ve volunteered to go if she won’t (possibly)*. It’ll be my “punishment” for not responding to her texts this past weekend. Punishment because I don’t breathe easily up there, so it’s a struggle for me to go… but, I haven’t spent time with my Mom in a while and she wants to go to a Garage Sale and if we can maneuver it, there’s some kind of Folk Festival that actually sounds incredibly interesting. I may tell my Dad not to bother my sister and that I’d like to take Mom, anyway. I love my Mom and if she’s in a good mood, which she should be for the Garage Sale, I can handle that.
I’ll just need to figure out when the landmines are being laid closer together and take her home and head home, myself. Not engage in the arguments that will strike as she gets worn down.
As for my Dad? He validated that I had a point, where my sister and me were concerned. That’s all I wanted.
*Problem is, if I express any sort of happiness in doing this - just because I do want to spend time with Mom, my sister will jump at the chance to cut me off at the pass and look like the “better daughter”. Maybe the way to play this is for my Dad to tell her I’d like to go, but if she still wants to, no worries, because I’ll go to the NRA Convention Protest with him. The only thing worse, in her eyes, than me being happy spending time with our Mom is me being happy spending time with our Dad, because in her opinion, I do that far too often and I’m his favourite. Two parents, two kids: one favourite for each. I’m okay with that. Otherwise, my Dad and my Mom can play it off as Donya can take the weekend to relax and enjoy with her family… Do I have to manipulate my sister? Unfortunately yes. Do I like doing it. No. I do not.
I wish, more than anything, that being a sister meant the same to her as it does to me.