October 26th, 2013
I am so incredibly tired of assholes that can’t deal with a strong woman or a woman in power over them or a woman that is smarter than them. I’m just… I’m just over it.
Look, women are over half the world’s population, so the likelihood that there will be women that are smarter than a man, capable of making better decisions and having not only those skills, but a history of success doing so, is high.
And if a man comes into his place of employment, and honestly doesn’t care about the work or the people that the company or organization represents, showing hostility to a woman who does, can do the job better than he does, and is already getting the short end of the stick in the situation does nothing but create contempt for him, not just with the woman or women you’re treating horribly, but by the people that see not only what she’s capable of, that she’s talented, more knowledgable than him, but that she actually cares and is willing to do the work.
I am honestly tired of being a woman who understands computers and machines quickly and easily and the harassment and hostility from men who find that threatening or have confidence problems with themselves, because I have a greater technological capacity and thus, take it out on me. To these men, I say:
"The fear that I’m a greater asset to the organization or company should be real, but instead of taking it out on me, why don’t you turn that inward and actually try to learn, instead of trying to make my life harder or more difficult? At what point did you assume that as a strong, intelligent woman, if you just became hostile, argumentative, or combative that I would just go away? At what point did you read the situation wrong that a woman who routinely, as a liberal goes into conservative areas and works on elections and campaigns would just give up? At what point did you determine that your apathy to your own livelihood and position would be a greater asset to an organization than my overwhelming heart and strength? How dare you. How dare you blame anything on me, you jackass piece of shit asshole."
Look, I can work with anyone - anyone that actually cares about what they’re doing, that wants to make things better, that wants to engage people. I can work with people that care more about collecting a paycheck and only get that opportunity and that sizable one because of family connections.
Cultural discriminations need to be left at home. If, as a man, want to treat women in your family like they’re less than you because you’re a man, good for you. I feel sorry for those women, but they make that decision. Me? I have no choice and your culture, when it interferes in the way of sexism and racism, should be left at the door of employment. Religion also needs to be left at home. I don’t preach to people, don’t judge them. If you decide that’s how you want to be, fine, but do not let it affect the work. Once you do, it’s discrimination.
When you further insult a woman, whom you don’t have to, treat an underling with disrespect because you can’t handle the job and can’t blame it on anyone else, because the mistakes are your fault entirely, you show what you are made of, as an employee and as a potential employer. What’s worse, you don’t inspire camaraderie, a team environment, or even invoke the desire to work for you or with you. Worse, there’s no reason on Earth to respect you, because you are not respecting your fellow worker. Even worse? Demanding respect of others you routinely disrespect. I give respect to my fellow human beings, just as a general rule of thumb, but it is lost in a heartbeat and is difficult to gain my trust and respect back. Some would same damn near impossible. I see through you, as you’re made of glass. As a woman who has had a team of employees before, let me tell you, people can spot a poor manager a mile away and they don’t rush to work for them and they certainly don’t have a loyal set of people that will have their back and vice versa.
….But the worst part of this whole thing is the female boss that allows you to continually get away with it just because you’re a man. By definition, when there are different rules for men and women, there is sexism. When there are different rules for people of different races, for the Hispanics in the office versus the Caucasians versus the African Americans, that is racism. In this particular office, you should be ashamed of yourself.
I’m just honestly sick of fighting the damn fight. As a smart, intelligent, technically savvy woman with a political mind of genius that demonstrates her talents routinely, I shouldn’t have to do it anymore and my fight should not be harder with every passing year, let alone day. You want to know why women don’t want to break into technology? It’s because it’s the one of the last bastions of male dominance, where women are not only treated horribly, they are disrespected as human beings, their intelligence questioned, and their knowledge must routinely be put on display, before they’ll finally hear from a male colleague: “wow, you really know your stuff!”
How many times does a man say that to another man? Why does a man have to be so surprised when he says it to a woman. Why is there even a question or doubt?
I’m just so damn tired of it. So tired of hostility and harassment because I’m smart.